Being Nice

Being nice makes you good friends, fairly easily, and fairly frequently, which is lovely. And I love being nice to people, and helping them and cooking for them, or doing their dishes. Because I love them. And we're all children of God, which I think, as a mormon very much changes my perspective on doing good deeds or service for others. Makes me much happier to do it. I love it.

But it also makes you feel like they are good friends. And I think a lot of the time, that feeling really isn't mutual. People like you, because you're nice, sure. They don't mind having you around, because they at least don't find you too annoying. They probably feel like they know you well enough to come borrow a cup of sugar.. but do they feel like they trust you? Or that they can come to you when they're feeling down? And I do mean come to you, not dump on you if you happen to be there at the right time. Because I think that's very different, personally.

I have lots of friends. Lots of really fun friends. And I love them all. But I think that in all reality.. not more than one, maybe two, actually have an equal relationship with me. Not that I mind doing lots of things for people.. it's just that every now and then you wonder why no one else does anything for you, yeah? Sometimes it's a personality difference. And sometimes it's because they don't feel the same desire or obligation to send their love to you, as you do for them.