Am I the only one that thinks the "dating rules" are dumb and shouldn't even exist? One of my friends is freaking out because she went on a date with some boy and I think they may even have held hands or something, and now she's freaking out that he hasn't texted her since, and she is freaking out because she can't contact him or else she'll be "Breaking the rules" and I was like .... uhh... just break the darn rules. Grown human beings should not be spazzing about that. And she was like no, no all I know is that bad things happen when you break the rules .... honestly?
If it's someone you're going to be with... then Rules Do Not Exist. Because all that matters is being yourself with them. Which is why you should just be yourself all the time and never worry about it. Am I just crazy or does this make sense? And if the rules are something that impede communication which is KEY to ANY relationship, then they should be BURNED. Honestly. The whole world needs a lesson on the fact that communication is more important than anything else. Communication with your God, your intimate other, your friends, your family, your children, EVERYONE! Communication trumps all.
In my opinion... such "rules" are something tweenage girls make up in their heads because they're so twitterpated and immature, let's not forget... and the relationship will never be real anyway. And then random girls get poisoned by this mindset and get stuck with it the rest of their lives, and spend too much time worrying about the rules that they forget to be themselves and have a much harder time being happy and comfortable in the presence of a boy. And honestly.. how would a relationship EVER work, if you don't feel comfortable with them? Primarily, I think that the rules are merely another device by which communication is lost between men and women, because women are living their lives by rules that the boys are entirely UNAWARE of..... yes? yes.
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Here is only one "rule" that makes sense to me... Bishop Simmons taught it to me. It is the step rule. A girl can certainly make a "step", but you need to see if the guy makes a step up to you. If you keep running up the stairs and he is staying on the bottom step, then you know you need to come back down and wait a bit or move on. I agree with you that being yourself and communication are very important-I like to think about what I would do with any other friend- would I call? would I text? would I email any other friend? If yes then who cares how long ago the date was. Be a friend 1st and formost!
So that's when you do something for him to let him know you're thinking of him- like bake cookies, drop a real handwritten note off, send balloons, and then yes- wait for a response- if there is no response- then move on! Texting is a load of ..... Ok in my day we just used real phones. with cords.
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