If you wouldn't do it in front of your parents, then you shouldn't be doing it in front of anybody else either. You should have more respect for those around you. And if nothing else you should have enough respect for your relationship that you would want to keep that intimacy just between you and your significant other. No one else needs to see that. Ever. Ever. Ever.
And if you're going to argue that you would act that way in front of your parents... then I seriously worry for the level of respect you have for your parents.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Sacrifice
My question is ... when does circumstance merit breaking prior commitments? Why is it that you put off one person for another... all the time, and yet you are never willing to put off the other person, even just once? Where do we draw the line of commitment to our friends and relationships? For whom are we willing to make sacrifices for? Because if you're not willing to sacrifice anything for them... I don't believe you really love them very much.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Roommates
My least favorite part of having roommates is that the moment you get a roommate that has a boy you are immediately subject to several days out of the week where your are banished from the living room for hours and hours at a time. Go find a nice lonely parking lot. Do not expect me to pretend like I don't live in my own house. Gah.
One day I will have my own livingroom, and my own kitchen. And I will never be kicked out of my own livingroom because it will be mine. Unless there is an exciting surprise on the other end in return for my being kicked out.
One day I will have my own livingroom, and my own kitchen. And I will never be kicked out of my own livingroom because it will be mine. Unless there is an exciting surprise on the other end in return for my being kicked out.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Support
It's hard to support people when you don't agree with what they're doing. Most likely its not your place to put forth your opinion, and it's so hard to withhold your opinion from someone you love so, much when you're worried about the decision they're making. But everyone has to make their own decisions, and you know you can't make decisions for anyone but yourself.
But it pains me to keep my mouth shut.
But it pains me to keep my mouth shut.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Change
You can only change yourself. Relationships work by always improving yourself, not by focusing on how someone else needs to change.
I can always be better.
I can always improve.
I can always be nicer.
I can always be a better friend.
I can always be better.
I can always improve.
I can always be nicer.
I can always be a better friend.
Constant
I think I've finally figured out a lesson that I've been given several opportunities to learn, and have repeatedly failed at... I've been looking for a constant, a dependable person to hold onto in life, to keep me grounded and sane. But people can't always be there for you. It seems like they should be able to be at least more often than they are... but I guess we just can't have standards that high. There are very few people in this world you can depend on, and even if they are--no one's perfect. And we can't expect them to be. Something tells me that I'll still be learning this lesson for a while... and I regret that. But I've grown up with high expectations, and when people started to meet them it only reinforced that mindset. But the higher the expectation... the more people fall short. And that's not fair to anyone. So I'll be doing my best to keep learning and reprogramming myself.
There is only one constant, and eternally perfect dependably being out there... and it is God. We all have to rely on our Heavenly Father, and turn to Christ and the power of the Atonement. And that is a lesson we keep learning our whole lives long. Depend on Christ. Rely on Christ. Turn to him when you need aid, comfort, and peace.
He lives. Turn to him.
There is only one constant, and eternally perfect dependably being out there... and it is God. We all have to rely on our Heavenly Father, and turn to Christ and the power of the Atonement. And that is a lesson we keep learning our whole lives long. Depend on Christ. Rely on Christ. Turn to him when you need aid, comfort, and peace.
He lives. Turn to him.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Friday, March 12, 2010
"The Rules"
Am I the only one that thinks the "dating rules" are dumb and shouldn't even exist? One of my friends is freaking out because she went on a date with some boy and I think they may even have held hands or something, and now she's freaking out that he hasn't texted her since, and she is freaking out because she can't contact him or else she'll be "Breaking the rules" and I was like .... uhh... just break the darn rules. Grown human beings should not be spazzing about that. And she was like no, no all I know is that bad things happen when you break the rules .... honestly?
If it's someone you're going to be with... then Rules Do Not Exist. Because all that matters is being yourself with them. Which is why you should just be yourself all the time and never worry about it. Am I just crazy or does this make sense? And if the rules are something that impede communication which is KEY to ANY relationship, then they should be BURNED. Honestly. The whole world needs a lesson on the fact that communication is more important than anything else. Communication with your God, your intimate other, your friends, your family, your children, EVERYONE! Communication trumps all.
In my opinion... such "rules" are something tweenage girls make up in their heads because they're so twitterpated and immature, let's not forget... and the relationship will never be real anyway. And then random girls get poisoned by this mindset and get stuck with it the rest of their lives, and spend too much time worrying about the rules that they forget to be themselves and have a much harder time being happy and comfortable in the presence of a boy. And honestly.. how would a relationship EVER work, if you don't feel comfortable with them? Primarily, I think that the rules are merely another device by which communication is lost between men and women, because women are living their lives by rules that the boys are entirely UNAWARE of..... yes? yes.
If it's someone you're going to be with... then Rules Do Not Exist. Because all that matters is being yourself with them. Which is why you should just be yourself all the time and never worry about it. Am I just crazy or does this make sense? And if the rules are something that impede communication which is KEY to ANY relationship, then they should be BURNED. Honestly. The whole world needs a lesson on the fact that communication is more important than anything else. Communication with your God, your intimate other, your friends, your family, your children, EVERYONE! Communication trumps all.
In my opinion... such "rules" are something tweenage girls make up in their heads because they're so twitterpated and immature, let's not forget... and the relationship will never be real anyway. And then random girls get poisoned by this mindset and get stuck with it the rest of their lives, and spend too much time worrying about the rules that they forget to be themselves and have a much harder time being happy and comfortable in the presence of a boy. And honestly.. how would a relationship EVER work, if you don't feel comfortable with them? Primarily, I think that the rules are merely another device by which communication is lost between men and women, because women are living their lives by rules that the boys are entirely UNAWARE of..... yes? yes.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Signs of the Times
My notes from my old testament class today:
03/01/2010
Haiti earthquake
Chile earthquake [ALL IN NEARLY 1 MONTH!]
Hawaii's tsunami
Signs of the Times
When this thought came to me, I nearly cried. This is so obviously a sign that the time of the Second Coming is fast approaching. And I felt this overwhelming need to take out my endowments and be sealed to Michael, sooner rather than later. Obviously I will not pounce on him to take me to the temple the moment he gets home from his mission or anything... since we will still need atleast some time to get re-acquainted with each other's presence... and I shouldn't jump the gun... but as part of the arrival of the Second Coming, there will be more wars and more natural disasters, and there is no promise that no righteous man will fall during this time... And I don't think I could stand it if he died, and I had not yet been sealed to him. This probably seems overly dramatic, and premature, and perhaps a little immature, but that is the feeling that came to my heart.
Our job as saints is to teach the gospel, and gather Israel, and especially during these last days, we must depend on the Lord and wait for his coming. However, the term "waiting" does not mean to sit idly by. Instead, we must continue with a strong fervor of faith, to carry out his commandments and prepare the way for Him. We have been taught to seek knowledge but spiritual study and duty must always have a higher priority than the secular.
We have been commanded to multiply, and if we put off that commandment due to our fear of man, or our fear that God will not support us in our time of difficulty, then we are slothful servants. We cannot say "I must and will get an education first." With my new plan to get an Associates Degree, I see the Lord's hand in my life. I was promised that I would be given the opportunity to complete my education beyond highschool, and I have been given that opportunity. I know that if I was put in a position where I was trying to raise children and do school at the same time, my school work would suffer, and I would have a very difficult time with it, and so I see that I have been greatly blessed with the opportunity to finish my schoolwork first. But I will emphasize that if it came down to it, I would do my best to put forth full faith in the Lord and would attempt both, if it was my call to do so. I do not believe in the putting off of children. And I still acknowledge that I am very likely to be raising children while my future husband is still in school, and I see that that may be a trial, but I also see it as a great opportunity for many blessings. No matter our circumstances... if we trust in the Lord, pay our tithing, and keep his commandments, we will be taken care of--it may be a long time before financial security is felt, but we will always get by with just as much as we need: Like the lilies of the field. And I look forward to that day.
I do not want to put off for any reason, my marriage, or my children. Finances do not worry me, waiting for an engagement ring does not worry me, waiting for the perfect time that makes all parts of both families happy does not even necessarily worry me. I don't want a big extravagant expensive wedding, I don't need a long engagement. I already feel a confidence in who I will get married to, which means, when it comes down to it, I want to get married, as soon as it can possibly happen. I have always felt such a security in the prospect of falling asleep next to a worthy priesthood holder, and that is the biggest goal I have in this life beside having married him in the temple, and always keeping the covenants made therein.
03/01/2010
Haiti earthquake
Chile earthquake [ALL IN NEARLY 1 MONTH!]
Hawaii's tsunami
Signs of the Times
When this thought came to me, I nearly cried. This is so obviously a sign that the time of the Second Coming is fast approaching. And I felt this overwhelming need to take out my endowments and be sealed to Michael, sooner rather than later. Obviously I will not pounce on him to take me to the temple the moment he gets home from his mission or anything... since we will still need atleast some time to get re-acquainted with each other's presence... and I shouldn't jump the gun... but as part of the arrival of the Second Coming, there will be more wars and more natural disasters, and there is no promise that no righteous man will fall during this time... And I don't think I could stand it if he died, and I had not yet been sealed to him. This probably seems overly dramatic, and premature, and perhaps a little immature, but that is the feeling that came to my heart.
Our job as saints is to teach the gospel, and gather Israel, and especially during these last days, we must depend on the Lord and wait for his coming. However, the term "waiting" does not mean to sit idly by. Instead, we must continue with a strong fervor of faith, to carry out his commandments and prepare the way for Him. We have been taught to seek knowledge but spiritual study and duty must always have a higher priority than the secular.
"....Intangible things make just as ready gods. Degrees and letters and titles can become idols. Many young men decide to attend college when they should be on missions first. The degree, and the wealth and the security which come through it, appear so desirable that the mission takes second place. Some neglect Church service through their college years, feeling to give preference to the secular training and ignoring the spiritual covenants they have made.
Many people build and furnish a home and buy the automobile first--and then find they "cannot afford" to pay tithing. Whom do they worship? Certainly not the Lord of heaven and earth, for we serve whom we love and give first consideration to the object of our affection and desires. Young married couples who postpone parenthood until their degrees are attained might be shocked if their expressed preference were labeled idolatry. Their rationalization gives them degrees at the expense of children. Is it a justifiable exchange? Whom do they love and worship--themselves or God? Other couples, recognizing that life is not intended primarily for comforts, ease, and luxuries, complete their educations while they move forward with full lives, having their children and giving Church and community service. "
(President Kimball, Miracle of Forgiveness, pp. 40-41)
We have been commanded to multiply, and if we put off that commandment due to our fear of man, or our fear that God will not support us in our time of difficulty, then we are slothful servants. We cannot say "I must and will get an education first." With my new plan to get an Associates Degree, I see the Lord's hand in my life. I was promised that I would be given the opportunity to complete my education beyond highschool, and I have been given that opportunity. I know that if I was put in a position where I was trying to raise children and do school at the same time, my school work would suffer, and I would have a very difficult time with it, and so I see that I have been greatly blessed with the opportunity to finish my schoolwork first. But I will emphasize that if it came down to it, I would do my best to put forth full faith in the Lord and would attempt both, if it was my call to do so. I do not believe in the putting off of children. And I still acknowledge that I am very likely to be raising children while my future husband is still in school, and I see that that may be a trial, but I also see it as a great opportunity for many blessings. No matter our circumstances... if we trust in the Lord, pay our tithing, and keep his commandments, we will be taken care of--it may be a long time before financial security is felt, but we will always get by with just as much as we need: Like the lilies of the field. And I look forward to that day.
I do not want to put off for any reason, my marriage, or my children. Finances do not worry me, waiting for an engagement ring does not worry me, waiting for the perfect time that makes all parts of both families happy does not even necessarily worry me. I don't want a big extravagant expensive wedding, I don't need a long engagement. I already feel a confidence in who I will get married to, which means, when it comes down to it, I want to get married, as soon as it can possibly happen. I have always felt such a security in the prospect of falling asleep next to a worthy priesthood holder, and that is the biggest goal I have in this life beside having married him in the temple, and always keeping the covenants made therein.
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