I find it amazing that no matter the hardships or trials we face we seem to underplay them for others. I think its amazing that we move past them at all. And sometimes I find it amazing that we don't share them more often to testify that trials are overcome. I mean no one wants to focus on gloom or doom... but hopefully we don't put the focus in our lives on the gloom and doom, but instead on the feelings afterwards. I think of the times I have helped friends overcome their experiences with abuse or pain and I smile. And could I have helped them in the same way if not for my own life story? Well who knows anyway since it can't be undone! Everyone's experienced pain and no matter what the cause of that pain was... for them it was real. For them it might have been the only truth they felt in that moment. For anyone else to underplay that... is unjust and unkind. One could reasonably say that it's just plain stupid. Or at least I would say that. Because even looking back... comparing my life story to those I've known and I think... "Oh how trivial. I should get over it!" ... I feel as though I've overcome those trials as best I can, but that doesn't mean I don't still feel the pain of it. One of my friends once said that she knew shortly after meeting me that I had experienced pain because how else could I be so happy? Without pain there is no joy. Opposition in all things as they say... And who wouldn't be grateful for the joy in their lives? So therefore... who wouldn't want to experience pain... at least every now and then?
People tell you that their lives are boring or that they have nothing interesting to tell you about themselves... but I'm not sure that's ever true. Everyone experiences those small seemingly meaningless moments of happiness that mean something to them. It's just a matter of feeling comfortable letting someone else in on those moments, whether they are happy or sad. I love being allowed to see the things about people's lives that they don't broadcast. I love it when people are truly honest about their life, their feelings...when they are truly genuine with you. There are no moments more special than that. Life is all relative and I don't think we should ever ever forget that. Moral of the story... life stories are precious no matter what the story is. And anyone should feel privileged for getting to share in one. So here's a New Years toast... here's hoping I can meet honest, genuine people, and that I can be just as honest and genuine with them.
No comments:
Post a Comment