Time Out

Ironically, my husband and I are terrible at going on dates. For the most part, we really value our time with our kids, and we don’t usually feel like we need time away from them to be together. Or at least we don’t often think being away from them is worth the money and hassle that sometimes would go into going on dates! And we should probably be better at going on dates...

HOWEVER, we try really hard to support each other in getting the necessary time away from the house, or even in the house, but alone. I’m happy when he takes the time he needs to go play PokemonGo, or go running because it means he is filling his self care bucket that helps him be mentally sane the rest of the days and weeks and hours. Or when he wants to go to the grocery store because he’s been sitting at a desk all day and wants to get out of the house after work even if it is just to go buy milk and eggs. Well, I mean, I really couldn’t complain about THAT, now could I!? 😉 Sometimes on the weekend he takes a nap, and that means keeping the kids entertained to allow daddy a little peace. And sometimes he spends a day off from work playing video games with his brother. And that’s okay.

Because sometimes he deals with all the tooth brushing and last night potty runs and drinks of water and good night kisses and puts all the kids to bed without me because I have gone to an Addiction Recovery Meeting, or to hang out with a friend, or have gone to the grocery store, or fell asleep super early because I have work that night that will keep me up for hours, and I just need a little power nap first. That’s tonight, I fell asleep on the couch, and I’m just now waking up. And in a little while I will sit down to work for a few hours. Some mornings I don’t wake up to the children or the babies, he does, and he’ll take the baby downstairs, sometimes give her a bottle so mommy can keep sleeping. He often makes breakfasts for the kids too for that matter. 

Time with our kids is great. And we try to schedule one on one time with each of them every now and then too. But one on one time with ourselves is so important for us. I am so grateful that he is so willing to help me make time to go out and spend time for myself. And honestly, we both probably still need to schedule a little more time for ourselves. Because it is so good for our sanity!