Communication

Communication is something I have spent a lot of time thinking about. I wish we all communicated better, more effectively, with more depth, honesty, detail and truth.. I have a friend who often prefaces her questions with "I hope this isn't too personal but..." and I wish I could truly instill the idea that I really and truly don't mind such personal questions. I love them. Honestly, I think it makes me feel loved when people care and feel close enough with me to ask them. A sort of.. love language if you will. I had a friendship once with whom I communicated better than I have ever experienced with anyone. We both felt free to ask any question no matter personal, and no matter how nitpicky. We asked eachother to clarify intentions and meanings of words and phrases used and asked for background thoughts and feelings that were happening during conversations or certain statements... that's just how our conversations went, all the time. Sometimes it was a bit difficult admitting to certain background thoughts or feelings occurring during a conversation but it forced a frequent exercise in trust and faith and we definitely felt very close because of that. And we had a rule to always be honest and to answer every question asked. And since this type of clarifying question was so frequent and expected, you were motivated to be explicit and thorough so as not to force further probative questions ;)  I loved that way of communicating. Most people don't have the patience or courage to communicate that way I think.. But I also think that there are a lot of people out there that wish desperately to be able to communicate that way... they just don't feel safe enough to do it. I think that's why I tend to overshare sometimes. Because I'm trying to show people that I feel safe talking with them so that they will feel safe talking with me. I love when people feel safe talking with me about personal things. I guess that makes me feel loved too. And it makes me feel like if the time comes, they'll let me in should they ever need help or a listening ear, which is something I love to do for people. And I love to know people, their history, the way they think, the anxieties they feel... it's a weird way to bond but it's effective ;) Communication is key ya'll. It's da bomb ;D